Stay Away from Negative Attitudes, Negative Emotions, Negative Thoughts ...
...they only create negative consequences in our lives.
"Nothing can bring you peace but yourself ..."
~Ralph Waldo Emerson
"Make the most of yourself, for that is all there is of you."
~Ralph Waldo Emerson
"Negative thoughts can keep you from going after your dreams!"
"You feel the way you feel because of the thoughts you are thinking ..."
"Attitudes and emotions affect our health."
"Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms - to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way."
Negative emotions, negative attitudes and negative mental states, such as anger, hate, rage, fear, pride, jealousy, envy, resentments, guilt, greed, worries, suspicions, mistrust, complaining, etc. - cause us to behave in certain ways that will just bring us unhappiness, suffering and pain.
Negative emotions can control us. They can take over our life and drain our energy. They can stop us from going after our dreams and accomplishing our goals. We have to learn to acknowledge that we are experiencing them and not allow them to keep growing inside of us. We have to try to take immediate action to prevent them from spreading and causing more damage. Once you acknowledge the presence of negative emotions you can decide not to let yourself fall under their control (like anger, for example).
It is not an easy task. We have to discipline ourselves and refrain from becoming overwhelmed by these emotions and thoughts. I cannot emphasize enough how much damage these negative thoughts and feelings can cause. They can truly ruin lives (ours and others). The Dalai Lama writes in his book "An Open Heart": "These emotions are the real destructive forces of the universe. Most of the problems and suffering we experience, which are essentially of our own making, are ultimately created by these negative emotions." Each one of us is responsible for everything that happens in our lives; so we have to start paying close attention to our feelings and negative emotions, thoughts and attitudes.
You may have to go further and discover the cause of your anger and other negative feelings. These feelings are buried deep inside of us and we have to bring them out in the open, to let go of them and get rid of them once and for all. That's when sometimes help is needed - sometimes we cannot accomplish this by ourselves. A good therapist can help you and guide you to discover the origin of some of these emotions and help you find ways to channel them in positive actions. You have to learn to communicate and express those feelings or they will create havoc in your life. Some people are like walking "time-bombs" full of rage and negative emotions and ready to explode any minute. They have kept their anger, hurt, resentments, etc. inside for too long and they become people with "toxic personalities".
Learn instead to embrace positive thoughts and positive attitudes (love, kindness, compassion, friendship, respect, sympathy, empathy, patience, tolerance, etc.) and learn to forgive yourself and others for not being perfect. You can never be happy if you have a negative attitude most of the time - if everything bothers you, nothing is good enough for you, no one is ever right, everyone is out there to get you; if you are hard to please; if you complain about almost everything; if you feel sorry for yourself, etc. Your mental attitude is very important!
If you have a low self-esteem and don't feel good about yourself, you become an easy target for these negative emotions to invade every space in your mind. It will be easier for you to take things personally, get upset more easily, misconstrue people's intentions, etc. So, be careful. Work on your self-confidence and start appreciating who you are. Remember: you matter a lot; you are a very important person; you are here in this world for a good reason and to make a difference - so don't let anyone put you down. Learn to love yourself!
People that let their negative emotions and thoughts take over their lives end up miserable and lonely.
"Every moment of every day we have a choice to think positive thoughts that make us feel good or negative thoughts that make us feel bad. Positive thoughts strengthen us while negative thoughts weaken us. There's even scientific evidence that shows that you are physically stronger while thinking positive thoughts versus negative thoughts. We also know that positive thoughts enhance health, happiness and longevity. When we start paying attention to how we feel in response to our thoughts we'll notice that our emotions are signals that alert us to how we are thinking. Good thoughts lead to good feelings and negative thoughts lead to bad feelings."
"There are millions of human beings who live narrow, darkened, frustrated lives - who live defensively - simply because they take a defensive, doubtful attitude toward themselves and, as a result, towards life in general. A person with a poor attitude becomes a magnet for unpleasant experiences. When those experiences come - as they must, because of his attitude - they tend to reinforce his poor attitude, thereby bringing more problems, and so on. The person becomes an example of self-generating, doom-fulfilling prophecy. And it's all a matter, believe it or not, of attitude. We get what we expect. Our outlook on life is a kind of paintbrush, and with it, we paint our world. It can be bright and filled with hope and satisfaction, or it can be dark and gloomy - lugubrious."
"Our attitude tells the world what we expect in return. If it's a cheerful, expectant attitude, it says to everyone with whom we come in contact that we expect the best in our dealings with the world. You see, we tend to live up to our expectations. And others give to us, as far as their attitudes are concerned, what we expect. Our attitude is something we can control. We can establish our attitude each morning when we start our day - in fact, we do just that, whether or not we realize it. And the people in our family -all the people in our world- will reflect back to us the attitude we present to them. It is, then, our attitude toward life that determines life's attitude toward us. Cause and effect. Everything we say or do will cause a corresponding effect. If we're cheerful, glad to be experiencing this miracle of life, others will reflect that good cheer back to us. We are the kind of people others enjoy being around."
"Nothing can stop the person with the right mental attitude from achieving his or her goal; nothing on earth can help the person with the wrong mental attitude."
~Thomas Jefferson ( also attributed to W.W. Ziege)
"We are shaped by our thoughts; we become what we think. When the mind is pure, joy follows, like a shadow that never leaves."
"Become the change you want to see..."
"These years are years of change. You will change into the man or woman that you will become for the rest of your life. Be careful who you change into..."
"Forgiveness is the path to peacefulness. Let go of all expectations and resentment. Be peaceful..."
"Today I choose to be happy. Today nothing will bother me. Today I'll have a great day!"
Please check www.livinglifefully.com - beautiful website with many inspirational messages and good lessons!. Also: www.salestrainingplus.com (great article: "Everything Starts with Attitude"); www.wingsfortheheart.com (article: "Consciously Choosing a Positive Attitude"); and of course www.Oprah.com too!
The Power of Attitude: Our lives are not determined by what happens to us, but by how we react to what happens; not by what life brings to us, but by the attitude we bring to life. A positive attitude causes a chain reaction of positive thoughts, events, and outcomes. It is a catalyst... a spark that creates extraordinary results. Let's learn to assume a positive attitude.